Love Quote by Padma Aon Prakasha
““When you say, ‘I love you’ to other people you may be actually saying: • I don’t want to feel certain emotions hidden deep within me. • I love you because I don’t want to feel heavy. • I love you because I don’t want to feel shitty. • I love you because I don’t want to feel lonely. • I love you so I do not have to feel the huge gaping hole within me. • I love you because I don’t want to feel out of control. • I love you so I can stay in control. • I love you so I don’t have to feel angry. • I love you so I can feel angry. • I love you because I really don’t want to feel lost. • I love you because I don’t want to feel how hopeless my life is. • I love you because I don’t want to feel my own pain. • I love you because you fit the fantasy in my head of what my lover should be like. • I love you because I do not want to feel empty. • I love you because I do not love myself. • I love you because someone in my past did not love me. • I love you because I am addicted to sex, to comfort. • I love you because you make me feel good and stop me feeling other emotions I do not wish to feel. • I love you because you fill me up. • I love you because you make me feel scared and that’s what love is for me. • I love you because you remind me of how I have been abused and how I have abused others. • I love you because you serve me and do not bother me. • I love you because other people say I do, and we look good together. • I love you because society demands that I should, and it is right to. • I love you because I am too scared to be myself and step out into the world alone. • I love you because you give me security, stability and because I am obliged to because we have children and a home. • I love you because my parents, friends and culture want me to. • I love you because you make me feel needed. • I love you because I need you. • I love you because I want to take care of you and make you, and me, feel good. • I need to do something to deserve love. • I need to do something to give love. • I need to do something to receive love. • Love is need. Need is love. • I can only love when I am perfect and good. • I can only love and be loved when I am perfect and good. • I can only love myself when I am perfect and good. Is any of this really love? Does love use anything? Does love manipulate anybody? So why are you doing it everyday? Why do you grab hold of anyone else to stop you feeling these things?””
About This Quote
The quote lists many hidden motives behind saying “I love you,” suggesting love is often used to avoid uncomfortable feelings and fulfill unmet needs.
In simple terms: People often say “I love you” to dodge painful emotions or satisfy personal deficits.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and address the underlying needs instead of masking them with love.
Themes
self-awareness
emotional avoidance
relationships
psychology
dependency
Mood
introspective
thoughtful
cautious
Type
analytical
reflective
psychological
When to use this quote
- therapeutic counseling
- personal reflection
- relationship discussions
- mindfulness practice
- journaling
Key Concepts
attachment theory
defense mechanisms
self‑esteem
cultural expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- What emotions am I truly avoiding when I say “I love you”?
- How can I meet my needs without using love as a shield?
A Different Perspective
The list may overgeneralize and ignore genuine affection that isn’t rooted in avoidance.
