Dark eyes Quote by Nancy Kress
““Miri once told me that there were only four important questions you could ask about any human being: How does he fill up his time? How does he feel about how he fills up his time? What does he love? How does he react to those he perceives as either inferior or superior to him? If you make people feel inferior, even unintentionally," she had said, her dark eyes intense, "they will be uncomfortable around you. In that situation, some people will attack. Some will ridicule, to 'cut you down to size.' But some will admire, and learn from you. If you make people feel superior, some will react by dismissing you. Some by wielding power — just because they can — in greater or lesser ways. But some will be moved to protect and help. All this is just as true of a junior lodge clique as of a group of governments.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Dark Between Stars by Nancy Kress, 2015
Evaluating a person involves how they use time, their feelings about that use, their passions, and their reactions to perceived hierarchy.
In simple terms: Assess character by time use, feelings, loves, and reactions to status.
Key Takeaway
Observe and respect how others spend time and feel.
Themes
character assessment
social dynamics
power relations
Mood
reflective
analytical
Type
philosophical
psychological
social
When to use this quote
- leadership evaluation
- team building
- conflict resolution
- personal development
Key Concepts
psychology
hierarchy
empathy
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you assess someone's values without judgment?
- What reactions arise when you feel superior or inferior?
A Different Perspective
People may misinterpret intentions, causing unintended offense.
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