Children Quote by Nancy Friday
““The primary rule is always that a mother can’t go wrong, ever, by encouraging her child after age one and a half to be as individuated and separated as possible. If she was not as good a mother before as she would like to have been, she must get over her guilty desires to overcompensate, and place herself on the side of the child’s developing””
About This Quote
Source Book: My Secret Life: Sex and Fantasy in the World of Women, Nancy Friday, 1981
A mother should support her child's individuality without overcompensating for past perceived shortcomings.
In simple terms: Support child independence, avoid overcompensation.
Key Takeaway
Encourage child growth, let go of guilt.
Themes
parenting
individuality
guilt
growth
Mood
reflective
concerned
Type
advice
psychological
When to use this quote
- child development
- self-esteem building
- family counseling
Key Concepts
psychology
developmental
parental roles
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you balance support and independence?
- What guilt might you be carrying?
A Different Perspective
Overemphasis on independence may neglect needed guidance.
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