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Exclusion Quote by Melinda Gates

“Anyone can be made to feel like an outsider. It’s up to the people who have the power to exclude. Often it’s on the basis of race. Depending on a culture’s fears and biases, Jews can be treated as outsiders. Muslims can be treated as outsiders. Christians can be treated as outsiders. The poor are…” quote by Melinda Gates
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““Anyone can be made to feel like an outsider. It’s up to the people who have the power to exclude. Often it’s on the basis of race. Depending on a culture’s fears and biases, Jews can be treated as outsiders. Muslims can be treated as outsiders. Christians can be treated as outsiders. The poor are always outsiders. The sick are often outsiders. People with disabilities can be treated as outsiders. Members of the LGBTQ community can be treated as outsiders. Immigrants are almost always outsiders. And in most every society, women can be made to feel like outsiders—even in their own homes. Overcoming the need to create outsiders is our greatest challenge as human beings. It is the key to ending deep inequality. We stigmatize and send to the margins people who trigger in us the feelings we want to avoid. This is why there are so many old and weak and sick and poor people on the margins of society. We tend to push out the people who have qualities we’re most afraid we will find in ourselves—and sometimes we falsely ascribe qualities we disown to certain groups, then push those groups out as a way of denying those traits in ourselves. This is what drives dominant groups to push different racial and religious groups to the margins. And we’re often not honest about what’s happening. If we’re on the inside and see someone on the outside, we often say to ourselves, “I’m not in that situation because I’m different. But that’s just pride talking. We could easily be that person. We have all things inside us. We just don’t like to confess what we have in common with outsiders because it’s too humbling. It suggests that maybe success and failure aren’t entirely fair. And if you know you got the better deal, then you have to be humble, and it hurts to give up your sense of superiority and say, “I’m no better than others.” So instead we invent excuses for our need to exclude. We say it’s about merit or tradition when it’s really just protecting our privilege and our pride.””

Melinda Gates

About This Quote

Source Speech: TED Talk on Inclusion, 2018

Excluding groups creates deep inequality; recognizing shared humanity and humility can end marginalization.

In simple terms: Excluding people fuels inequality; seeing common humanity ends it.

Key Takeaway

Practice humility and include others.

Themes

inclusion equality humility power identity

Mood

reflective hopeful serious

Type

motivational philosophical

When to use this quote

  • workplace
  • education
  • policy
  • community building
  • personal reflection

Key Concepts

social psychology privilege othering

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you recognize your own biases?
  • What steps can you take to include marginalized groups?
A Different Perspective

People resist acknowledging shared traits due to fear of losing status.

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