Advice Quote by Marisha Pessl
““I remembered what Dad said once, that some people have all of life's answers worked out the day they're born and there's no use trying to teach them anything new. 'They're closed for business even though, somewhat confusingly, their doors open at eleven, Monday through Friday,' Dad said. And the trying to change what they think, the attempt to explain, the hope they'll come to see your side of things, it was exhausting, because it never made a dent and afterward you only ached unbearably.””
About This Quote
The speaker reflects on the futility of trying to persuade people who are entrenched in their worldview, feeling exhausted by the lack of impact.
In simple terms: Changing deeply held beliefs is often futile.
Key Takeaway
Some minds are closed to new ideas.
Themes
stubbornness
communication
generational wisdom
exhaustion
persuasion
Mood
frustration
resignation
melancholy
Type
personal anecdote
reflective observation
When to use this quote
- debating with a close friend
- teaching an adult who resists change
- family dinner conversations
- workplace brainstorming with resistant colleagues
Key Concepts
cognitive rigidity
emotional fatigue
family dynamics
Practical Applications
- counseling strategies for dealing with closed-mindedness
- writing about generational conflicts
Questions to Reflect On
- What strategies can you use when you feel your efforts are ignored?
- How might you recognize when to let go of trying to change someone?
A Different Perspective
While some may be resistant, incremental exposure can sometimes shift perspectives over time.
