Blood flow Quote by Laurie Frankel
““...ultimately, eventually, we let go. We do this not because we're ready. We do this not because we've mended. We do this not because we've mourned and come to terms and gotten over it and moved on. We never move on. We don't let go so much as lose our grip and fall because remembering is not enough..memory is imperfect. It is full of holes. It is more space than matter, like lace. It is at once sodden with sorrow and desiccated from lack of blood flow, the obvious result of a broken heart. It makes things up in hopeless attempts to comfort itself. It fills fissure with fantasy. It screws shut its eyes and balls up its fists and flings itself to the ground in a kicking, screaming, blind-rage temper tantrum against reality. But mostly,..memory keeps taking on more.””
About This Quote
Memory is imperfect, fragmented, and emotionally charged; we cling to it not because we are ready to let go, but because loss and grief leave us grasping, leading to a painful, chaotic inner experience.
In simple terms: Memory is flawed and painful, yet we hold onto it.
Key Takeaway
Accept memory’s limits and seek healthy ways to process grief.
Themes
memory
grief
psychology
healing
imperfection
emotions
Mood
melancholic
introspective
hopeful
Type
philosophical
therapeutic
reflective
When to use this quote
- bereavement
- therapy
- journaling
- support groups
- mindful reflection
Key Concepts
cognitive bias
trauma
attachment
resilience
Questions to Reflect On
- How do your memories shape your current emotions?
- What practices help you honor loss without being overwhelmed?
A Different Perspective
Memories can distort reality and hinder healing if not examined.
![“one might call this state ["youth" (but that seems inaccurate)] "remembering" but memory is quite eerie like caging a dream, and when I recite the rote details the real event slithers further from me because the telling of it reshapes it, every touch alters it, until it is unrecognizable except as…” quote by David David Katzman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/b18/david-david-katzman-42025_cause-and-effect_one-might-call-this-state-youth-but-that_3232200.jpg)
