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Childhood Quote by Katherine Dunn

“It is, I suppose, the common grief of children at having to protect their parents from reality. It is bitter for the young to see what awful innocence adults grow into, that terrible vulnerability that must be sheltered from the rodent mire of childhood. Can we blame the child for resenting the…” quote by Katherine Dunn
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““It is, I suppose, the common grief of children at having to protect their parents from reality. It is bitter for the young to see what awful innocence adults grow into, that terrible vulnerability that must be sheltered from the rodent mire of childhood. Can we blame the child for resenting the fantasy of largeness? Big, soft arms and deep voices in the dark saying, "Tell Papa, tell Mama, and we'll make it right." The child, screaming for refuge, senses how feeble a shelter the twig hut of grown-up awareness is. They claim strength, these parents, and complete sanctuary. The weeping earth itself knows how desperate is the child's need for exactly that sanctuary. How deep and sticky is the darkness of childhood, how rigid the blades of infant evil, which is unadulterated, unrestrained by the convenient cushions of age and its civilizing anesthesia. Grownups can deal with scraped knees, dropped ice-cream cones, and lost dollies, but if they suspected the real reasons we cry they would fling us out of their arms in horrified revulsion. Yet we are small and as terrified as we are terrifying in our ferocious appetites. We need that warm adult stupidity. Even knowing the illusion, we cry and hide in their laps, speaking only of defiled lollipops or lost bears, and getting lollipop or a toy bear'd worth of comfort. We make do with it rather than face alone the cavernous reaches of our skull for which there is no remedy, no safety, no comfort at all. We survive until, by sheer stamina, we escape into the dim innocence of our own adulthood and its forgetfulness.””

Katherine Dunn

About This Quote

Source Essay: The Dark Child, Katherine Dunn, 1995

Children protect parents from harsh reality, yearning for adult sanctuary, yet adults often cannot meet that deep need for comfort and safety.

In simple terms: Children seek adult comfort against a harsh world.

Key Takeaway

Acknowledge and gently support children's need for safe emotional shelter.

Themes

vulnerability parenting childhood illusion comfort

Mood

empathetic reflective somber

Type

advice philosophical

When to use this quote

  • family therapy
  • parenting guidance
  • child counseling
  • support groups
  • educational workshops

Key Concepts

psychology emotional development dependency illusion sanctuary

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can adults create genuine, safe spaces for children's fears?
  • What boundaries protect both child and adult in this dynamic?
A Different Perspective

Adults may unintentionally dismiss children's deep emotional needs, causing further alienation.

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