“When u find yourself talking bad about someone, ask yourself - if this person were listening to u talk, would u feel honest & respectful of that person, even if what u are saying is not true? People who talk maliciously about others are really very terrified people. Why do I say that , because they feel they must manipulate the people around them to be safe . And thats a very threatened place to live by ,because they wouldnt want u to know the real truth .The more someone is trying to harm & manipulate , the more sensitive and insecure that person is on the inside, so much so that they feel the need to control everyone around them to keep their lives stable. If u are the type of person who loves to play the victim ,by fabricating lies or bad mouthing or discredit the other person, Just to make yourself feel better . Realize 1 thing - what are those people you are telling these lies to-, are thinking of u< especially If these things are about your own flesh/blood.”