Fate Quote by John Irving
““When an orphan is depressed," wrote Wilbur Larch, "he is attracted to telling lies. A lie is at least a vigorous enterprise, it keeps you on your toes by making you suddenly responsible for what happens because of it. You must be alert to lie, and stay alert to keep your lie a secret. Orphans are not the masters of their fates; they are the last to believe you if you tell them that other people are also not in charge of theirs. When you lie, it makes you feel in charge of your life. Telling lies is very seductive to orphans. I know," Dr. Larch wrote. "I know because I tell them, too. I love to lie. When you lie, you feel as if you have cheated fate--your own, and everybody else's.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Cider House Rules by John Irving, 1985
Orphans may turn to lying as a way to feel control and purpose when they feel powerless.
In simple terms: Orphans lie to feel in control.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and address underlying feelings of powerlessness.
Themes
psychology
lying
control
orphanhood
Mood
sad
reflective
Type
literary
psychological
When to use this quote
- Therapy sessions
- school counseling
- support groups
- family discussions
Key Concepts
Coping mechanisms
self‑esteem
authority
illusion
Questions to Reflect On
- How does lying affect an orphan’s sense of self?
- What healthier ways can they regain control?
A Different Perspective
Lying can reinforce false sense of agency and hinder genuine growth.
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