Ask yourself Quote by Jeffrey Kottler
““In addition to its role in facilitating change, conflict serves a number of other constructive functions—as a releaser of tension, a promoter of growth, a regulator of distance between people, a path to intimacy and to personal gain, and a preventer of stagnation. The intention here is not to convince you to go looking for opportunities to argue at every turn, but rather to help you realize that what makes fighting so intolerable is the belief that it serves no useful purpose. It is extremely important when you find yourself embroiled in controversy to ask yourself what functions the conflict is serving.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Conflict Management Strategies, Jeffrey Kottler, 2015
Conflict can release tension, foster growth, adjust relational distance, deepen intimacy, and prevent stagnation, serving multiple constructive purposes.
In simple terms: Conflict has useful functions beyond argument.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and channel conflict constructively.
Themes
growth
relationship
communication
psychology
Mood
reflective
analytical
Type
strategic
inspirational
When to use this quote
- team meetings
- family disputes
- negotiations
- creative brainstorming
Key Concepts
tension release
distance regulation
intimacy building
personal development
Questions to Reflect On
- What purpose does your current conflict serve?
- How can you transform tension into growth?
A Different Perspective
Conflict can also cause harm if mismanaged.
