Another man Quote by Jane Austen
““Persuasion is not at command; but pardon me, if I cannot even endeavour to persuade him. I have myself told him that Miss Thorpe is engaged. He knows what he is about, and must be his own master.' 'No, he does not know what he is about,' cried Catherine; 'he does not know the pain he is giving my brother. Not that James has ever told me so, but I am sure he is very uncomfortable.' 'And are you sure it is my brother's doing?' 'Yes, very sure.' 'Is it my brother's attention to Miss Thorpe, or Miss Thorpe's admission of them, that gives the pain?' 'Is it not the same thing?' 'I think Mr. Morland would acknowledge a difference. No man is offended by another man's admiration of the woman he loves; it is the woman only who can make it a torment.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: Persuasion, 1817
People often misinterpret affection, leading to pain and misunderstanding; honest communication is essential.
In simple terms: Misreading love causes hurt; speak clearly.
Key Takeaway
Clarify feelings to avoid pain.
Themes
love
miscommunication
honesty
Mood
sad
thoughtful
Type
literary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- courtship
- family conflict
- friendship
- betrayal
Key Concepts
social dynamics
emotional intelligence
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we ensure honest dialogue?
- What role does pride play in misunderstandings?
A Different Perspective
Assumes all parties are rational.
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