Airplane Quote by James Hillman
“A mother should have some fantasy about her child's future. It will increase her interest in the child, for one thing. To turn the fantasy into a program to make the child fly an airplane across the country, for example, isn't the point. That's the fulfillment of the parent's own dreams. That's different. Having a fantasy - which the child will either seek to fulfill or rebel against furiously - at least gives a child some expectation to meet or reject.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Soul's Code by James Hillman, 1996
Parents' imaginative hopes for their children shape expectations, motivating growth or rebellion, but should not become the parents' own unfulfilled ambitions.
In simple terms: Parents' fantasies guide children, but shouldn't be parents' dreams.
Encourage child’s own dreams, not yours.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- career planning
- educational goals
- personal development
- family dynamics
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you support a child's dreams without projecting your own?
- What expectations foster healthy growth?
May limit child's autonomy and create pressure to meet unrealistic expectations.