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Burden Quote by Henry James

“Her own burden certainly was small, but her strength, as yet, was untested. She had thought, in her many reveries, of a possible rupture of harmony with Roger, and prayed that it might never come by a fault of hers. The fault was hers now in that she had surely cared less for duty than for joy…” quote by Henry James
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““Her own burden certainly was small, but her strength, as yet, was untested. She had thought, in her many reveries, of a possible rupture of harmony with Roger, and prayed that it might never come by a fault of hers. The fault was hers now in that she had surely cared less for duty than for joy. Roger, indeed, had shown a pitiful smallness of view. This was a weakness; but who was she, to keep account of Roger’s weaknesses? It was to a weakness of Roger’s that she owed her food and raiment and shelter. It helped to quench her resentment that she felt, somehow, that, whether Roger smiled or frowned, George would still be George. He was not a gentleman: well and good; neither was she, for that matter, a lady. But a certain manful hardness like George’s would not be amiss in the man one was to love. There was a discord now in that daily commonplace of happiness which had seemed to repeat the image of their mutual trust as a lucid pool reflects the cloudless blue. But if the discord should deepen and swell, it was sweet to think she might deafen her sense in that sturdy cousinship.””

Henry James

About This Quote

Source Novel: The Portrait of a Lady by Henry James, 1881

A woman wrestles with duty versus personal joy, recognizing both her own and her partner’s flaws.

In simple terms: She balances duty and joy, noting imperfections.

Key Takeaway

Acknowledge flaws, choose authentic joy.

Themes

duty joy self‑awareness

Mood

thoughtful melancholic

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • marriage
  • career choices
  • family expectations
  • personal growth

Key Concepts

existentialism ethical dilemma

Questions to Reflect On

  • What does duty mean to you?
  • How can you honor both duty and joy?
A Different Perspective

Focusing on others’ faults can obscure self‑growth.

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