Child Quote by Gordon Neufeld
““phenomenon. For the child to feel full he must first feel empty, to feel helped the child must first feel in need of help, to feel complete he must have felt incomplete. To experience the joy of reunion one must first experience the ache of loss, to be comforted one must first have felt hurt. Satiation may be a very pleasant experience, but the prerequisite is to be able to feel vulnerability. When a child loses the ability to feel her attachment voids, the child also loses the ability to feel nurtured and fulfilled.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Power of Attachment, Gordon Neufeld, 2015
True fulfillment arises only after experiencing lack, need, and vulnerability, which make the later joy of connection meaningful.
In simple terms: We need emptiness to appreciate fullness.
Key Takeaway
Embrace vulnerability to grow.
Themes
attachment
growth
vulnerability
emotional development
Mood
reflective
hopeful
serious
Type
philosophical
inspirational
psychological
When to use this quote
- parenting
- counseling
- personal growth
- education
- therapy
Key Concepts
Attachment theory
psychology
human needs
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you safely experience need?
- What does vulnerability teach you about love?
A Different Perspective
If one avoids feeling need, they may never fully appreciate connection.
