Able Quote by Frederick Buechner
“To forgive somebody is to say one way or another, "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you've done, and though we may both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. I still want you for my friend.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Book of Buechner, Frederick Buechner, 1990
Forgiveness involves acknowledging hurt, balancing pride and principle, and choosing continued friendship despite scars.
In simple terms: Forgive while remembering.
Key Takeaway
Choose friendship over resentment.
Themes
forgiveness
pride
principles
friendship
Mood
empathetic
hopeful
Type
ethical
relationship
When to use this quote
- marriage
- family disputes
- long‑term friendships
- reconciliation
Key Concepts
moral courage
emotional resilience
Questions to Reflect On
- Can you forgive without forgetting?
- What limits forgiveness?
A Different Perspective
Forgiveness may not erase pain and can be emotionally taxing.
