Enough time Quote by Erica Jong
““A woman's ability to achieve depends on childlessness or childcare. In America, where we don't believe in an underclass to do 'women's work', women themselves become the underclass. For love. Nobody doubts the love is real. It's for our children. But we are supposed to do it invisibly and never mention it. Alfred North Whitehead, who wasn't a woman after all, said that the truth of a society is what cannot be said. And women's work still cannot be said. It's called whining -- even by other women. It's called self-indulgence -- even by other women. Perhaps women writer are hated because abstraction makes oppression possible and we refuse to be abstract. How can we be? Our struggles are concrete: food, fire, babies, a room of one's own. These basics are rare -- even for the privileged. It is nothing short of a miracle every time a woman with a child finishes a book. Our lives -- from the baby to the writing desk -- are the lives of the majority of humanity: never enough time to think, eternal exhaustion. The cared-for male elite, with female slaves to tend their bodily needs, can hardly credit our difficulties as 'real'. 'Real' is the deficit, oil wars in the Middle East, or how much of our children's milk the Pentagon shall get. This is the true division in the world today: between those who carelessly say 'Third World' believing themselves part of the '¨First', and those who know they are the Third World -- wherever they live. Women everywhere are the 'Third World', In my country, where most women do not feel part of what matters, they are thirdly third, trapped in the myth of being 'first'.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: The Female Experience, 1990s (public speech)
Women’s labor, both domestic and creative, is invisible, undervalued, and essential to society, yet dismissed as “whining.”
In simple terms: Women’s work is ignored and uncredited.
Recognize and value women’s invisible labor.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- parenting
- writing
- career advancement
- advocacy
- policy reform
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can societies make invisible labor visible?
- What policies could support mothers who write?
The quote assumes all women share the same experience, overlooking cultural and socioeconomic differences.