Love Quote by Erica Jong
““A DOZEN PHALLACIES WOMEN BUY Phallacy 4. Men love it when you tell the truth about your relationship. Truth They hate it. Their truth and your truth are, anyway, different. Their truth is about their priorities (conquest, winning, fucking). Our truth is about our priorities (nurturing, creativity, love). Our priorities make life possible. Their priorities make their winning possible. They see our priorities as trivial, but they couldn't live without them. They are in denial about their human dependencies, and our priorities enable them to keep up their denial. How can you talk about this? It's like one person talking Greek and the other Swahili. Cross-babble. Don't talk about the relationship -- do something. Love it or leave it. Make your needs clear. Seize legitimate power. Always speak of how you feel, or what you need, and never accuse. Be gentile but firm. Know what you want and ask for it. If he says no once too often, then consider what your options are. If you are masochistic, get straight with yourself. This world is too cruel for you to compound the felony by being cruel to yourself. Love yourself. Men are mimics. If you love yourself, they love you too.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Fear of Flying by Erica Jong, 1973
The quote contrasts masculine and feminine priorities in relationships, urging women to assert their needs, communicate clearly, and prioritize self‑love over accommodating harmful dynamics.
In simple terms: Women should state needs, set boundaries, and value themselves.
Key Takeaway
Speak your needs, set boundaries, love yourself.
Themes
relationships
gender dynamics
self‑care
assertiveness
communication
Mood
determined
empowering
reflective
Type
advice
motivational
relationship.
When to use this quote
- dating
- marriage
- therapy
- personal growth
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
power dynamics
masculine vs feminine priorities
self‑love
boundary setting
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you balance your needs with partner’s?
- What boundaries protect your well‑being?
A Different Perspective
It may oversimplify gender differences and ignore individual variation.
