Convictions Quote by Emil M. Cioran
““If you try to convert someone, it will never be to effect his salvation but to make him suffer like yourself, to be sure he is exposed to the same ordeals and endures them with the same impatience. You keep watch, you pray, you agonize-provided he does too, sighing, groaning, beset by the same tortures that are racking you. Intolerance is the work of ravaged souls whose faith comes down to a more or less deliberate torment they would like to see generalized, instituted. The happiness of others never having been a motive or principle of action, it is invoked only to appease conscience or to parade noble excuses: whenever we determine upon an action, the impulse leading to it and forcing us to complete it is almost always inadmissible. No one saves anyone; for we save only ourselves, and do so all the better if we disguise as convictions the misery we want to share, to lavish on others. However glamorous its appearances, proselytism nonetheless derives from a suspect generosity, worse in its effects than a patent aggression. No one is willing to endure alone the discipline he may even have assented to, nor the yoke he has shouldered. Vindication reverberates beneath the missionary's bonhomie, the apostle's joy. We convert not to liberate but to enchain. Once someone is shackled by a certainty, he envies your vague opinions, your resistance to dogmas or slogans, your blissful incapacity to commit yourself.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Temptation to Exist, Emil M. Cioran, 1957
Attempting to force belief onto others creates shared suffering rather than salvation, revealing intolerance as a self‑inflicted torment.
In simple terms: Forcing faith causes pain for both sides.
Recognize that true compassion respects autonomy.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- spiritual counseling
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What motivates you to share your beliefs?
- How can you support others without imposing?
It can ignore genuine desire for meaning, reducing dialogue to coercion.