Cried Quote by Elizabeth Strout
““The night in the hospital when I felt I had been unkind to my mother by saying that I did not think she ever cared what it was like to be famous, I couldn’t fall asleep. I was agitated; I wanted to cry. When my own children cried I fell to pieces, I would kiss them and see what was wrong. Maybe I did it too much. And when I had had an argument with William, I sometimes cried, and I learned early that he was not a man who hated to hear a woman cry, as many men are, but that it would break whatever coldness was in him, and he would almost always hold me if I cried very hard and say, “It’s okay, Button, we’ll work it out.”But with my mother I didn’t dare cry. Both my parents loathed the act of crying, and it’s difficult for a child who is crying to have to stop, knowing if she doesn’t stop everything will be made worse. This is not an easy position for any child. And my mother—that night in the hospital room—was the mother I had had all my life, no matter how different she seemed with her urgent quiet voice, her softer face. What I mean is, I tried not to cry. In the dark I felt she was awake.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: “My Name Is Lucy Barton” by Elizabeth Strout, 2016
The narrator reflects on suppressed grief, familial expectations, and the difficulty of expressing vulnerability in a family that devalues crying.
In simple terms: She struggles with showing emotion because her parents discouraged it.
Allow yourself safe spaces to express feelings.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- hospital stay
- parent-child conflict
- personal therapy
- support groups
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does your family view crying?
- What safe outlet can you create for emotional release?
The narrative may idealize emotional restraint, overlooking the benefits of open communication.