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“We Americans often say that marriage is hard work. I'm not sure that the Hmong would understand this notion. Life is hard work, of course, and work is very hard work -- I'm quite certain they would agree with those statements - but how does marriage become hard work? Marriage becomes hard work…” quote by Elizabeth Gilbert
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““We Americans often say that marriage is hard work. I'm not sure that the Hmong would understand this notion. Life is hard work, of course, and work is very hard work -- I'm quite certain they would agree with those statements - but how does marriage become hard work? Marriage becomes hard work once you have poured the entirety of your life's expectations for happiness into the hands of one mere person. Keeping that going is hard work. A recent survey of young American women found that what women are seeking these days in a husband - more than anything else - is a man who will "inspire" them, which is, by any measure, a tall order. As a point of comparison, young women of the same age, surveyed back in the 1920s, were more likely to choose a partner based on qualities such as "decency" or "honesty," or his ability to provide for a family. But that's not enough anymore. Now we want to be INSPIRED by our spouses! Daily! Step to it, honey!””

Elizabeth Gilbert

About This Quote

Source Interview: "Eat, Pray, Love" author on marriage expectations, 2015

Marriage feels like hard work when all hopes for happiness hinge on a single partner, demanding constant inspiration.

In simple terms: Relying on one person for all happiness is exhausting.

Key Takeaway

Seek shared responsibility and realistic expectations.

Themes

relationships expectations inspiration

Mood

reflective thoughtful

Type

advice philosophical

When to use this quote

  • marriage counseling
  • personal growth
  • partner communication

Key Concepts

dependency idealization emotional labor

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can couples balance personal fulfillment with shared goals?
  • What realistic expectations support lasting partnership?
A Different Perspective

Relying solely on a partner can lead to disappointment and burnout.

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