Accustomed Quote by Edward Bulwer-Lytton, 1st Baron Lytton
“The distinguishing trait of people accustomed to good society is a calm, imperturbable quiet which pervades all their actions and habits, from the greatest to the least. They eat in quiet, move in quiet, live in quiet, and lose their wife, or even their money, in quiet; while low persons cannot take up either a spoon or an affront without making such an amazing noise about it.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Last Days of Pompeii, Edward Bulwer-Lytton, 1834
People of refined society display a steady, quiet demeanor in all aspects of life, even in loss, unlike those of lower status who react loudly to minor events.
In simple terms: Refined people stay calm; others make noise over small things.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate composure regardless of circumstance.
Themes
calm
refinement
social class
behavior
resilience
Mood
serene
observational
Type
observational
reflective
When to use this quote
- handling grief
- daily routines
- conflict resolution
- public speaking
- leadership
Key Concepts
Stoicism
social psychology
class dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How does quietness affect personal authenticity?
- When is vocal expression more appropriate?
A Different Perspective
Quiet composure may mask inner turmoil or suppress needed emotional expression.
