Attracting-people Quote by E. Christian Trejo
““Accept that the more improve yourself, the less people will like you; this is because average people attract average people and many of them have the need to feel involved with broken individuals, people they think need to be fixed; because this is the only way they can feel special: by thinking that they can fix the people around them even when they can’t.””
About This Quote
Improving oneself often alienates others because people seek validation by “fixing” perceived flaws in others.
In simple terms: Self-improvement can cause social friction as others feel they need to fix you.
Key Takeaway
Accept that not everyone will like you.
Themes
self-improvement
social dynamics
validation
self-esteem
relationships
Mood
reflective
conflicted
insightful
Type
advice
philosophical
psychological
When to use this quote
- personal growth
- team environments
- friendships
- leadership
- counseling
Key Concepts
psychology
social comparison
self-actualization
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you handle relationships when you outgrow them?
- What motivates people to “fix” others?
A Different Perspective
Some may resent change, seeing it as a threat to their identity.
![“Stop wearing that mask that is trying to be a match for everybody, and realise that you have to have more of a 1s and 10s model. A 1s and 10s model means that if you want to be a 10 for somebody you have to risk being a 1 for somebody else. [...] You wanna express who you really are.” quote by Steve Pavlina](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/d28/steve-pavlina-3958_advice_stop-wearing-that-mask-that-is-trying-to_1418381.jpg)
