Bad marriage Quote by Doris Lessing
“Perhaps it is not such a bad marriage after all? There are innumerable marriages where two people, both twisted and wrong in their depths, are well matched, making each other miserable in the way they need, in the way the pattern of their life demands.”
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Golden Notebook, 1962
Some marriages thrive on mutual dysfunction, matching each other's flaws and creating a shared misery that fulfills deep needs.
In simple terms: Bad matches can feel right because they meet hidden needs.
Key Takeaway
Examine why you are drawn to certain relationships.
Themes
relationships
psychology
compatibility
Mood
introspective
critical
Type
literary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- personal therapy
- self‑reflection
- relationship education
Key Concepts
codependency
self‑sabotage
emotional needs
Questions to Reflect On
- What unmet needs drive you toward a partner?
- Can a relationship be healthy if it fulfills a deep flaw?
A Different Perspective
May romanticize unhealthy dynamics.
