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“You're the best man I ever met," I said. "I only meant...it's such a strain, to try and live for two people. To try to make them fit your ideas of what's right...You do it for a child, of course, you have to, but even then, it's dreadfully hard work. I couldn't do it for you - it would be wrong…” quote by Diana Gabaldon
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““You're the best man I ever met," I said. "I only meant...it's such a strain, to try and live for two people. To try to make them fit your ideas of what's right...You do it for a child, of course, you have to, but even then, it's dreadfully hard work. I couldn't do it for you - it would be wrong even to try." I'd taken him back more than a little. He sat for some moments, his face turned half away. Do ye really think me a good man?" he said at last. There was a queer note in his voice, that I couldn't quite decipher. Yes," I said, with no hesitation. Then added, half jokingly, "Don't you?" After a long pause, he said, quite seriously, "No, I shouldna think so." I looked at him speechless, no doubt with my mouth hanging open. I am a violent man, and I ken it well," he said quietly. He spread his hands out on his knees; big hands, which could wield a sword and dagger with ease, or choke the life from a man. " So do you - or ye should." You've never done anything you weren't forced to do!" No?" I don't think so." I said, but even as I spoke, a shadow of doubt clouded my words. Even when done from the most urgent necessity, did such things not leave a mark on the soul? {Claire Fraser & Jamie Fraser. Drums of Autumn}””

Diana Gabaldon

About This Quote

Source Novel: Outlander series, Drums of Autumn, 2006

A character wrestles with the moral weight of violence and the difficulty of living for others, questioning his own goodness and the impact of his actions on his soul.

In simple terms: He doubts his goodness and feels the heavy burden of violent deeds.

Key Takeaway

Acknowledge inner conflict and seek redemption.

Themes

morality violence identity self‑doubt responsibility

Mood

conflicted reflective somber

Type

philosophical dialogue

When to use this quote

  • parenting
  • leadership
  • conflict resolution
  • personal growth
  • self‑reflection

Key Concepts

ethical responsibility psychological burden redemptive potential

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you ever feel your actions contradict your values?
  • How can one reconcile duty with personal morality?
A Different Perspective

Even honest intentions can’t erase the lasting scars of harmful actions.

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