Quote by David D. Burns
““Self-esteem can be defined as the state that exists when you are not arbitrarily haranguing and abusing yourself but choose to fight back against those automatic thoughts with meaningful rational responses.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns, 1980
Self‑esteem arises when you stop harsh self‑talk and replace it with rational, supportive thoughts.
In simple terms: Self‑esteem is built by fighting negative thoughts with reason.
Key Takeaway
Replace self‑criticism with rational self‑support.
Themes
self‑esteem
cognitive therapy
self‑talk
Mood
reflective
empowering
Type
psychological
motivational
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- daily journaling
- stressful workday
- relationship conflict
Key Concepts
rational response
automatic thoughts
self‑compassion
Questions to Reflect On
- What automatic thoughts dominate your self‑talk?
- How can you practice rational rebuttals daily?
A Different Perspective
If rational responses are weak, negative thoughts may persist.
