Private things Quote by Dave Eggers
““We feel that to reveal embarrassing or private things, like, say, masturbatory habits (for me, about once a day, usually in the shower), we have given someone something, that, like a primitive person fearing that a photographer will steal his soul, we identify our secrets, our pasts and their blotches, with our identity, that revealing our habits or losses or deeds somehow makes one less of oneself. But it's just the opposite, more is more is more—more bleeding, more giving. These things, details, stories, whatever, are like the skin shed by snakes, who leave theirs for anyone to see. What does he care where it is, who sees it, this snake, and his skin? He leaves it where he molts. Hours, days or months later, we come across a snake's long-shed skin and we know something of the snake, we know that it's of this approximate girth and that approximate length, but we know very little else. Do we know where the snake is now? What the snake is thinking now? No. By now the snake could be wearing fur; the snake could be selling pencils in Hanoi. The skin is no longer his, he wore it because it grew from him, but then it dried and slipped off and he and everyone could look at it.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: The New Yorker, “The Art of the Longform”, 2014
Sharing personal, often embarrassing details can feel like shedding skin, exposing a part of ourselves that others can observe, yet it does not diminish our identity; it simply reveals a layer that has grown and fallen away.
In simple terms: Sharing intimate details reveals a layer of ourselves without losing identity.
Embrace vulnerability; share stories.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- personal essays
- therapy sessions
- social media posts
- creative writing
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What boundaries do you set when sharing personal stories?
- How does vulnerability affect trust?
Over‑sharing can lead to exploitation or loss of privacy.