“I agree with Alex Montgomery. Surprisingly. I've mlainy been in settings where male leadership in the church and home is emphasized, and I've often struggled with it. Why did God give give leadership gifts to women if they can't use them (at least in the big leadership positions)? Submission and following seems really, really tough.But after some conversations with friends, memorization of Ephesians 5, and beginning a relationship with a guy, I am now extremely grateful for all the godly male leaders that I see. And I am surprised at my lack of desire to lead in my relationship. I'm very grateful to the guy for taking initiative and risk; because I trust him to follow God, I am very content to follow him. As others have told me, submission/following is easy if you marry a guy you respect.Leading is tough. It means responsibility. And if I think submission is hard then leading is harder. And I think men are better able to handle that than women 'cause we worry. Even if that isn't the reason, I think God has his reasons for giving males and females different roles. Part of being a Christian is obeying the Bible even if we don't understand God's reasons.One friend told me that trusting a man's leadership is like following God. I know that comparing male/female relationships to our relationship with God is a basic principle in the Bible, clearly pointed out in Ephesians 5, but that really hit me. Because even though I struggle at times to trust God, I can point to situations where God's way was the best way for me, and I am glad now that I followed Him. And hopefully, if I ever marry, I will be able to have the same faith in my husband that I have in God .or at least a faith that God will lead through him.”
