“Describing good relatedness to someone, no matter how precisely or how often, does not inscribe it into the neural networks that inspire… — Thomas Lewis Inspire love Copy Share Image
“Cultural messages inform the populace that if they aren't perpetually electric they are missing out on the pinnacle of relatedness. Every pop-cultural… — Thomas Lewis Love Copy Share Image
“The person of the therapist is the converting catalyst, not his order or credo, not his spatial location in the room, not… — Thomas Lewis Mental health Copy Share Image
“Total self-sufficiency turns out to be a daydream whose bubble is burst by the sharp edge of the limbic brain. Stability means… — Thomas Lewis Identity Copy Share Image
“The purpose behind discerning the nature of love is not to satisfy ivory tower discussions or to produce fodder for academic delectation.… — Thomas Lewis Happiness Copy Share Image
“The vocation of psychotherapy confers a few unexpected fringe benefits on its practitioners, and the following is one of them. It impels… — Thomas Lewis Another world Copy Share Image
“Being well regulated in relatedness is the deeply gratifying state that people seek ceaselessly in romance, religions, and cults; in husbands and… — Thomas Lewis Community Copy Share Image
“The skill of becoming and remaining attuned to another's emotional rhythms requires a solid investment of years.” — Thomas Lewis Investing Copy Share Image
“But dividing the mind into “biological” and “psychological” is as fallacious as classifying light as a particle or a wave. The natural… — Thomas Lewis Binary-thinking Copy Share Image
“All of us, when we engage in relatedness, fall under the gravitational influence of another’s emotional world, at the same time that… — Thomas Lewis Astronomy Copy Share Image
“Emotions are humanity's motivator and its omnipresent guide. (36)” — Thomas Lewis Nature of man Copy Share Image
“The dogged implicitness of emotional knowledge, its relentless unreasoning force, prevents logic from granting salvation just as it precludes self-help books from… — Thomas Lewis Books Copy Share Image
“The first part of emotional healing is being limbically known - having someone with a keen ear catch your melodic essence. (170)” — Thomas Lewis Emotional Healing Copy Share Image
“The brevity of mini (psycho)therapies is another efficient forestaller of healing. The neocortex rapidly master didactic information, but the limbic brain takes… — Thomas Lewis Healing Copy Share Image
“People differ in their proficiency at tracing the outlines of another self, and thus their ability to love also varies.” — Thomas Lewis Ability to love Copy Share Image
“The United States alone sports an inventive spectrum of psychotherapeutic sects and schools: Freudians, Jungians, Kleinians; narrative, interpersonal, transpersonal therapists; cognitive, behavioral,… — Thomas Lewis Credentials Copy Share Image
I don't believe in God for the same reason that most people don't believe in Apollo or Zeus. ... God is just… — Thomas Lewis Apollo Copy Share Image
“When anxiety becomes problematic, most people try vainly to think their way out of trouble. But worry has its roots in the… — Thomas Lewis Anxiety Copy Share Image
“The mind-body clash has disguised the truth that psychotherapy is physiology. When a person starts therapy, he isn't beginning a pale conversation;… — Thomas Lewis Communication Copy Share Image
“While genes are pivotal in establishing some aspects of emotionality, experience plays a central role in turning genes on and off. DNA… — Thomas Lewis Emotions Copy Share Image
“Because loving is reciprocal physiologic influence, it entails a deeper and more literal connection than most realize. Limbic regulation affords lovers the… — Thomas Lewis Love Copy Share Image
“A therapist who fears dependence will tell his patient, sometimes openly, that the urge to rely is pathologic. In doing so he… — Thomas Lewis Freedom Copy Share Image
“Love is simultaneous mutual regulation, wherein each person meets the needs of the other, because neither can provide for his own.” — Thomas Lewis Love Copy Share Image
