Shannon Thomas

“It is not about holding on to hurts but not allowing time or distance to distort the truth about the abuse.   If”

— Shannon Thomas

“A Narcissist will run you over and scold you for being in their way. They will endlessly complain about how you damaged…

— Shannon Thomas

“Boundaries have nothing to do with forgiveness or resentment. They have everything to do with the quality of our interactions with the…

— Shannon Thomas

“Unraveling the lies and replacing them with truth is at the heart of the recovery journey for survivors of psychological abuse.”

— Shannon Thomas

“A survivor who is isolated (whether in physical or emotional distance) from his or her family of origin will experience profound grieving.”

— Shannon Thomas

“In a nutshell, the Despair stage is not pretty. It is the stage where the survivor realizes careers have been lost because…

— Shannon Thomas

“Denial is a powerful human component that cannot be ignored in the context of psychological abuse. Ironic, right? Denial is the exact…

— Shannon Thomas

“Denial is a powerful human component that cannot be ignored in the context of psychological abuse.”

— Shannon Thomas

“The survivor’s perfect romantic interest, mentor, or friend has abruptly turned on her or him. It’s a crushing season in life. How…

— Shannon Thomas

“The grave problem with hidden abuse is the target is being manipulated. The feelings are being manufactured for the power and control…

— Shannon Thomas

“When survivors get to the point where the relationships are slowly killing them, we must talk about why they won’t choose their…

— Shannon Thomas

“Let me stop here and correct a very common misconception: personality disorders are not the same classification of mental health disorders, such…

— Shannon Thomas

“Survivors are receiving very poor “counseling” from ministry staff and volunteers who have no professional training in mental health. Church leaders cannot…

— Shannon Thomas

“The level of impact on a target’s life will also be different depending on whether the abuse took place in a marriage…

— Shannon Thomas

“By the time survivors are compelled to leave their psychologically abusive relationships, they do not see any other viable option but to…

— Shannon Thomas

“Many survivors will work their way through the first stage of Despair, second stage of Education, third stage of Awakening, and find…

— Shannon Thomas

“When we don’t honor ourselves, we are coming into agreement with the abuser’s toxic agenda. We end up abusing ourselves too.  …

— Shannon Thomas

“Of all the offenses an abuser puts a target through, I am most deeply outraged by the stealing of goodness. It offends…

— Shannon Thomas

“Restoration is to take the actions that are within our power to restore what our abusers took from us.”

— Shannon Thomas

“People should never underestimate a psychological abuser’s ability to hide the truth. They are not even honest with themselves and truly believe…

— Shannon Thomas

“A Sociopath will run you over, scold you for being in their way, and have a smirk because secretly they get entertainment…

— Shannon Thomas

“These numbers show that among the participants of the study, “Mom” (or a mom figure) was the primary family abuser.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Rather than being insecure, psychological abusers are easily offended, consumed with themselves, and want things just their way.   Each”

— Shannon Thomas

“the first stage of recovery (Despair). The early period of recovery is lonely. It is the emotional equivalent of having dry, weary…

— Shannon Thomas

“Psychological abusers are known for becoming jealous of any attention not being given to them.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Venomous friends will not adhere to boundaries set by other people. They repeatedly push right past any off-limits signs you might have…

— Shannon Thomas

“Personality disordered people do not take too favorably to having their faults pointed out, regardless of how gently the topic is broached.…

— Shannon Thomas

“Living well does not mean the abuse never happened. It means the abuse did not damage you beyond repair.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Through No Contact, survivors can find ever-increasing distance from the malice that almost permanently ruined their lives.”

— Shannon Thomas

“The subtle nature of psychological abuse leaves survivors doubting themselves, but confidence is found in the healing process.   In”

— Shannon Thomas

“You are not alone in having witnessed some of the most bizarre human behaviors. It’s important for you to know that truth.…

— Shannon Thomas

“until victims know deep in their souls that it is a choice to be an abuser, they will continue to entertain pity…

— Shannon Thomas

“The abuser sees it as a huge victory to turn an independent survivor into a needy, dependent person who can no longer…

— Shannon Thomas

“Small empowering steps towards independence from a psychological abuser are incredibly important to the deprogramming process of recovery.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Personality disordered individuals have over-inflated egos that cannot handle even the smallest of bruising.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Survivors often get to a point in recovery where they can predict the responses of the toxic person.”

— Shannon Thomas

“I saw a quote that said, “When we know how to be happy, we won’t tolerate being around someone who makes us…

— Shannon Thomas

“The ability of the abuser to harm someone close to him or her fits perfectly into the lack of relational attachment that…

— Shannon Thomas

“When God becomes a flying monkey to a poisonous religious leader, a vicious mingling of psychological abuse and spiritual abuse congeal.   The”

— Shannon Thomas

“Rarely does a toxic person give an authentic apology. To do so would be too much evidence that they are just like…

— Shannon Thomas