“I'm still not sure if I was a victim or not... and if I was, who was my abuser?” — Eskay Teel Copy Share Image
Any woman who stays with her abuser beyond the first incident is complicitous with him. — Camille Paglia Copy Share Image
Feminism exists so that no woman ever has to face her abuser in isolation, alone. — Andrea Dworkin Copy Share Image
“We're so afraid of being hurt that we become the abuser first.” — Alaric Hutchinson Copy Share Image
“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“I saw a post online where someone said, “An abuser doesn’t abuse every day.” That, my friend, is intermittent reinforcement in a… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Beating yourself up over every perceived mistake is the work of an internal abuser who must be restrained and reformed.” — Bryant McGill Copy Share Image
“A psychological abuser will find a survivor’s emotional soft spots and exploit them for control and entertainment.” — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“It is not your job to understand. Sick people do sick things. You do not understand the mind of an abuser, because… — Hannah V. Sawyerr Copy Share Image
I feel very sorry for people who are trapped in an abusive relationship and keep making excuses for their abuser. — Jill Stein Copy Share Image
“When we don’t honor ourselves, we are coming into agreement with the abuser’s toxic agenda. We end up abusing ourselves too. … — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Of all the offenses an abuser puts a target through, I am most deeply outraged by the stealing of goodness. It offends… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“None of us realized that each act of violence was training us to perpetuate the cycle when we were grown up and… — Lecrae Moore Copy Share Image
“THE ABUSER’S PROBLEM IS NOT THAT HE RESPONDS INAPPROPRIATELY TO CONFLICT. HIS ABUSIVENESS IS OPERATING PRIOR TO THE CONFLICT: IT USUALLY CREATES… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Davies and Frawley believe that while the child may be a passive victim of the original sexual abuse, the child’s subsequent active… — Stephen A. Mitchell Copy Share Image
The number-one reason women say they returned to their abuser is financial insecurity. Often they have kids with them. They say half… — Patricia Arquette Copy Share Image
“A woman is still beaten every nine seconds in this country, but thanks to the heroic feminist campaigns of the 1970s and… — Rebecca Solnit Copy Share Image
When I was married to an abuser, he'd tell me he wouldn't have to get so angry if only I'd be less… — Luanne Rice Copy Share Image
“Domestic violence is just as much a quality-of-life and liberty for community, social, and legal attention to support mental, emotional, health, wellness… — Tracey Bond Copy Share Image
“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Almost no abuser is mean or frightening all the time. At least occasionally, he is loving, gentle, and humorous and perhaps even… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“What you went through is horrible. I'm not disputing it.' 'Okay. So?' 'Just that this man whom you depicted—it was like he… — Meena Kandasamy Copy Share Image
“...my father, [was] a mid-level phonecompany manager who treated my mother at best like an incompetent employee. At worst? He never beat… — Gillian Flynn Copy Share Image
“Have you ever heard a woman claim that the reason why she is chronically mistreating her male partner is because a previous… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“It is a source of power and entertainment for a toxic person to destroy an originally healthy and happy person. This point… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“The abuser does not believe, however, that his level of authority over the children should be in any way connected to his… — Lundy Bancroft Bancroft Copy Share Image
“He knows he used to be able to control you with charm, affection and promises. He also remembers how well intimidation or… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The BFMSS [British False Memory Syndrome Society] The founder of the 'false memory' movement in Britain is an accused father. Two of… — Beatrix Campbell Copy Share Image
“The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being… — Beatrix Campbell Copy Share Image
“Every aspect of the multipronged legal system even today is dominated by males: police, prosecutors, judges, probation officers. In addition, the state… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“A home where a woman is abused is a small-scale model of much larger oppressive systems that work in remarkably similar ways.… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“In projecting onto others their own moral sense, therapists sometimes make terrible errors. Child physical abusers are automatically labeled “impulsive," despite extensive… — Anna Salter Copy Share Image
“HOW CAN I TELL IF A MAN I’M SEEING WILL BECOME ABUSIVE? • He speaks disrespectfully about his former partners. • He… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
![“...my father, [was] a mid-level phonecompany manager who treated my mother at best like an incompetent employee. At worst? He never beat her, but his pure, inarticulate fury would fill the house for days, weeks, at a time, making the air humid, hard to breathe, my father stalking around with his…” quote by Gillian Flynn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02a/gillian-flynn-316_abuse_my-father-was-a-mid-level-phonecompany-m_2788017.jpg)
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