All Albert Ellis Quotes
- Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love; and thereby seriously disturb yourself. Attachment
- Lack of forgiveness of others breeds lack of self-forgiveness. Breeds
- To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic. Behavior
- The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. Best
- You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use… Ability
- Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to… Attained
- Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny. Creator
- The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for. Ashamed
- The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen.… Abiding
- I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. Able
- People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can lead to sorrow,… All
- By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I… Able
- There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational. Both
- Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. Conditional
- I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition. Condition
- You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it. Constructed
- I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself… Child
- People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. Contribute
- We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today. Behaving
- People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Inspirational
- The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your… Attitude
- The art of love is largely the art of persistence. Art
- Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human. Accept
- There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy. Brainy
- Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Belief