Prepare for the worst Quote by Anne Brontë
““What is it that constitutes virtue, Mrs. Graham? Is it the circumstance of being able and willing to resist temptation; or that of having no temptations to resist? - Is he a strong man that overcomes great obstacles and performs surprising achievements, though by dint of great muscular exertion, and at the risk of some subsequent fatigue, or he that sits in his chair all day, with nothing to do more laborious than stirring the fire, and carrying his food to his mouth? If you would have your son to walk honourably through the world, you must not attempt to clear the stones from his path, but teach him to walk firmly over them - not insist upon leading him by the hand, but let him learn to go alone.' 'I will lead him by the hand, Mr. Markham, till he has strength to go alone; and I will clear as many stones from his path as I can, and teach him to avoid the rest - or walk firmly over them, as you say; - for when I have done my utmost, in the way of clearance, there will still be plenty left to exercise all the agility, steadiness, and circumspection he will ever have. - It is all very well to talk about noble resistance, and trials of virtue; but for fifty - or five hundred men that have yielded to temptation, show me one that has had virtue to resist. And why should I take it for granted that my son will be one in a thousand? - and not rather prepare for the worst, and suppose he will be like his - like the rest of mankind, unless I take care to prevent it?””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Tenant of Wildfell Hall, 1848
Virtue is forged through confronting challenges, not by avoiding temptations; teaching resilience requires allowing struggle.
In simple terms: Virtue comes from facing obstacles.
Let children face challenges.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- child upbringing
- personal growth
- ethical training
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How to balance guidance and autonomy?
- When should obstacles be removed?
Overprotective parenting can hinder development.