Better things Quote by Alcoholics Anonymous
““We sometimes hurt those we love because they need to be “taught a lesson,” when we really want to punish. We were depressed and complained we felt bad, when in fact we were mainly asking for sympathy and attention. This odd trait of mind and emotion, this perverse wish to hide a bad motive underneath a good one, permeates human affairs from top to bottom. This subtle and elusive kind of self-righteousness can underlie the smallest act or thought. Learning daily to spot, admit, and correct these flaws is the essence of character-building and good living. An honest regret for harms done, a genuine gratitude for blessings received, and a willingness to try for better things tomorrow will be the permanent assets we shall seek.””
About This Quote
Source Literature: Anonymous Anonymous 12‑Step Program, 1939
People often disguise selfish motives as moral lessons, seeking sympathy while harming loved ones; recognizing and correcting this self‑righteousness builds character.
In simple terms: We hide bad motives behind good ones, harming others.
Key Takeaway
Acknowledge true motives, seek humility.
Themes
self‑deception
humility
character building
Mood
reflective
serious
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- family conflicts
- workplace decisions
- personal relationships
- therapy sessions
Key Concepts
psychology
ethics
self‑awareness
Questions to Reflect On
- What motives are you masking as moral lessons?
- How can you practice honest self‑reflection?
A Different Perspective
Self‑righteousness can be hard to admit, leading to denial.
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