Feuds Quote by Albert Ellis
“We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that.”
About This Quote
Believing others must obey our will fuels hostility and conflict, leading to large-scale violence.
In simple terms: Expecting others to do as we wish creates aggression and war.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and respect others' autonomy.
Themes
control
conflict
human nature
violence
autonomy
Mood
reflective
critical
Type
philosophical
motivational
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- political negotiations
- community building
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
psychology
social dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How does respecting autonomy reduce hostility?
- What personal habits reinforce control?
A Different Perspective
Not all conflicts stem from control issues; systemic factors also play a role.
