Confidence Quote by Alain de Botton
““I strip myself emotionally when I confess need – that I would be lost without you, that I am not necessarily the independent person I have tried to appear, but am a far less admirable weakling with little clue of life’s course or meaning. When I cry and tell you things I trust you will keep for yourself, that would destroy me if others were to learn of them, when I give up the game of gazing seductively at parties and admit it’s you I care about, I am stripping myself of a carefully sculpted illusion of invulnerability. I become as defenseless and trusting as the person in the circus trick, strapped to a board into which another is throwing knives to within inches of my skin, knives I have myself freely given. I allow you to see me humiliated, unsure of myself, vacillating, drained of self-confidence, hating myself and hence unable to convince you [should I need to] to do otherwise. I am weak when I have shown you my panicked face at three in the morning, anxious before existence, free of the blustering, optimistic philosophies I had proclaimed over dinner. I learn to accept the enormous risk that though I am not the confident pin-up of everyday life, though you have at hand an exhaustive catalogue of my fears and phobias, you may nevertheless love me.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Essays in Love by Alain de Botton, 1993
Opening up emotionally reveals vulnerability but also deepens intimacy, allowing authentic connection despite fear of judgment.
In simple terms: Sharing feelings creates true closeness.
Embrace honesty over fear.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- confessing love
- seeking support
- overcoming fear of rejection
- building trust
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What fears keep you from being honest?
- How does vulnerability change a relationship?
Vulnerability can be exploited if not reciprocated.