General hospital Quote by Abraham Verghese
““The slippers in the story mean that everything you see and do and touch, every seed you sow, or don't sow, becomes part of your destiny...I met Hema in the septic ward at Government General Hospital in India, in Madras, and that brought me to this continent. Because of that, I got the biggest gift of my life - to be a father to you two. Because of that, I operated on General Mebratu, who became my friend. Because he was my friend, I went to prison. Because I was a doctor, I helped to save him, and they let me out. Because I saved him, they could hang him...You see what I am saying? I never knew my father, and so I thought he was irrelevant to me. My sister felt his absence so strongly that it made her sour, and so no matter what she has, or will ever have, it won't be enough. I made up for his absence by hoarding knowledge, skills, seeking praise. What I finally understood in Kerchele is that neither my sister nor I realized that my father's absence is our slippers. In order to start to get rid of your slippers, you have to admit they are yours, and if you do, then they will get rid of themselves. The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don't. If you keep saying your slippers aren't yours, then you'll die searching, you'll die bitter, always feeling you were promised more. Not only our actions, but also our omissions, become our destiny.””
About This Quote
Source Book: My Own Country by Abraham Verghese, 1994
Our choices and neglect shape our fate; recognizing and owning them frees us from self‑imposed limits.
In simple terms: Own your actions and omissions to change destiny.
Accept responsibility for your life.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- parenting
- career decisions
- personal growth
- grief processing
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you recognize the “slippers” you carry?
- What steps can you take to own them?
Ignoring the influence of past absences can perpetuate self‑sabotage.