“When we believe we won't get through to the offending party, we often increase the intensity and lengthen our arguments. This does not help---and usually hurts. We may not recognize that our tone of voice or the sheer number of… — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D Copy Share Image
“To guard against the intolerable feeling of shame, we may fold ourselves up and hide in the darkest corner. We may apologize for taking up too much space or for using up too much of the valuable oxygen in the room. Or we may do the opposite and flip shame into contempt, arrogance, a need to control, and displays of… — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D Copy Share
“When we believe we won't get through to the offending party, we often increase the intensity and lengthen our arguments. This does not help---and… — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D Copy Share Image
“When we take rejection as proof of our inadequacies, it's hard to allow ourselves to risk being truly seen again. How can we open… — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D Copy Share Image
