“In making a path like the Buddha, we discover our own capacities for relationship. Doing this is like feeling our way in the dark. We need a healthy appreciation for what kind of obstacles we are facing within ourselves, and… — Mark Epstein Copy Share
Anxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a need, to engage this unknown, while anxiety suggests a fear of it. Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself,… — Mark Epstein Copy Share
“the Buddha may well have been the original psychoanalyst, or, at least, the first to use the mode of analytic inquiry that Freud was… — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
The willingness to face traumas - be they large, small, primitive or fresh - is the key to healing from them. They may never… — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
One of the age-old truths about love is that while it offers unparalleled opportunities for union and the lifting of ego boundaries, it also… — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
The central premise of this book is that the Western psychological notion of what it means to have a self is flawed. — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
“In making a path like the Buddha, we discover our own capacities for relationship. Doing this is like feeling our way in the dark. We need a healthy appreciation for what kind of obstacles we are facing within ourselves, and we need a method for working our way around those obstacles. It is in this sense that the path is… — Mark Epstein Copy Share
“The teaching of the sexual tantras all come down to one point. Although desire, of whatever shape or form, seeks completion, there is another kind of union than the one we imagine. In this union, achieved when the egocentric model of dualistic thinking is no longer dominant, we are not united with it, nor am I united with you, but… — Mark Epstein Copy Share
The picture we present to ourselves of who we think we ought to be obscures who we really are. — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
“A recently deceased American Zen master and navy veteran, John Daido Loori, used to say that those who think Buddhism is just about stillness… — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
“The early parent-child environment, the balance between being and doing, lives on in the mind. Mindfulness offers an opportunity to see these patterns clearly.… — Mark Epstein Copy Share Image
If things do not exist as fixed, independent entities, then how can they die? Our notion of death as the sudden expiration of that which was once so real starts to unwind. If things do not exist in their own right and are flickering rather than static, then we can no longer fear their ultimate demise. We may fear their… — Mark Epstein Copy Share
