The distinction between shame and guilt is very important, since these two emotions may tear a person in opposite directions. The wish to relieve guilt may motivate a confession, but the wish to avoid the humiliation of shame may prevent… — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“he is afraid of being falsely accused. Worried that if he looks afraid people will think he is a liar, he may try to… — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“3. When the behavior changes occur in relation to a specific topic or question, that tells the lie catcher this could be a hot… — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“There has never been a Supreme Court ruling on the admissibility of polygraph evidence in federal court.” — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“For six weeks after the Normandy invasion the Germans persisted in their error, keeping many of their troops in readiness at Calais rather than… — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“This distinction between believing-a-lie and disbelieving-the-truth is important because it forces attention to the twin dangers for the lie catcher. There is no way to avoid completely both mistakes; the choice only is between which one to risk more. The lie catcher must evaluate when it is preferable to risk being misled, and when it would be better to risk… — Paul Ekman Copy Share
“Sometimes one is better off misled. The host may be better off thinking the guest enjoyed himself; the wife happier believing that she can tell a joke well. The liar’s false message may not only be more palatable, it may also be more useful than the truth. The carpenter’s false claim “I’m fine” to his boss’s “How are you today?”… — Paul Ekman Copy Share
Crucial to how we feel is being aware of how we are feeling in the moment. The sine qua non of that is to realize that you are being emotional in the first place. The earlier you recognize an emotion, the more choice you will have in dealing with it. In Buddhist terms, it's recognizing the spark before the flame.… — Paul Ekman Copy Share
“posture appropriate for a formal interview is not the posture assumed when talking with a friend. Posture seems well under control and successfully managed… — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“Although it is illegal in eighteen states, to ask employees to take the polygraph test, employers reportedly can find ways around those laws.” — Paul Ekman Copy Share Image
“The failure to remember is not a lie, although liars will often try to excuse their lies, once discovered, by claiming a memory failure. It is not uncommon to forget actions that one regrets, but if the forgetting truly has occurred, we should not consider that a lie. for there was no choice involved. Often it will not be possible… — Paul Ekman Copy Share
