“The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
“In thousands of little ways, we pull and push our children to grow up, hurrying them along instead of inviting them to rest. We could never court each other as adults by resisting dependance...Perhaps we feel free to invite the dependance of adults becuase we are not responsible for their growth and maturity. We don't bear the burden of getting… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share
“Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior.” — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
Parents are the designated caregivers and are best suited for being able to raise children. — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
We have lost sight of nature's role in the whole process of maturation and growing up. Parents and nature are a team. And nature… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
Children need to trust and depend upon those who are responsible for them. — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
“As children grow, they have an increasing need to orient: to have a sense of who they are, of what is real, why things happen, what is good, what things mean. To fail to orient is to suffer disorientation, to be lost psychologically—a state our brains are programmed to do almost anything to avoid. Children are utterly incapable of orienting… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share
“Unconditional parental love is the indespensible nutrient for the child's healthy emotional growth. The first task is to create space in the child's heart for the certainty that she is precisely the person the parents want and love. She does not have to do anything or be any different to earn that love - in fact, she cannot do anything,… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share
“thus educators learn about teaching subjects but not about the essential importance of connected relationships to the learning process of young human beings.” — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
“less mature a person is, the more he will rely on this basic mode of attaching. Peer-oriented kids like Cynthia are preoccupied with being… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
“What to us looks like independence is really just dependence transferred. We are in such a hurry for our children to be able to do things themselves that we do not see just how dependent they really are. Like power, dependence has become a dirty word. We want our children to be self-directing, self-motivated, self-controlled, self-orienting, self-reliant, and self-assured. We… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share
“Increasingly, children’s behavioral problems are ascribed to various medical syndromes such as oppositional defiant disorder or attention deficit disorder. These diagnoses at least have… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
“The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance;… — Gordon Neufeld Copy Share Image
