When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner,… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
