We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
"No" is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you... Declining to hear "no" is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Contrary to what people believe about the intuition of dogs, your intuitive abilities are vastly superior (and given that you add to your experience… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Generally speaking, rapport-building has a far better reputation than it deserves. It is perceived as admirable when in fact it is almost always done… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman describes seven key abilities most beneficial for human beings: the ability to motivate ourselves, to persist against frustration, to delay… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Every day, people engaged in the clever defiance of their own intuition become, in mid-thought, victims of violence and accidents. So when we wonder… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“When young, they are attached by heavy chains to large stakes driven deep into the ground. They pull and yank and strain and struggle,… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Every human behavior can be explained by what precedes it, but that does not excuse it,” — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“The institutions of psychiatry, law enforcement, and government have proved that no matter what your resources, you cannot reliably control the conduct of crazy… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“The institutions of psychiatry, law enforcement, and goverment have proved that no matter what our resources, you cannot reliable control the conduct of CRAZY… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
