Indeed, it is that ambiguity and ambivalence which often is so puzzling in women--the quality of shifting from child to woman, theseeming helplessness one moment and the utter self-reliance the next that baffle us, that seem most difficult to understand.… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
By identifying with the powerful, the disempowered achieve a measure of safety, at least for a moment. By doing the bidding of those in power, they become a necessary part of the system, useful so long as they serve to… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
Contrary to all we hear about women and their empty-nest problem, it may be fathers more often than mothers who are pained by thechildren's… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
Sexual freedom is about choice. It's the freedom to say no as well as yes. — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
The ideal visions of one age eventually are seen as its excesses by the next. — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
Society and personality live in a continuing reciprocal relation with each other. The search for personal change without efforts to change the institutions within… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
Women find ways to give sense and meaning to daily life--ways to be useful in the community, to keep mind active and soul growingeven… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
The depth of a friendship - how much it means to us ... depends, at least in part, upon how many parts of ourselves… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
The authoritarian child-rearing style so often found in working-class families stems in part from the fact that parents see aroundthem so many young people whose lives are touched by the pain and delinquency that so often accompanies a life of poverty. Therefore, these parents live in fear for their children's future--fear that they'll lose control, that the children will wind… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share
We are a society that values a man for what he does in the world, a woman for how she looks. — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
How then can we account for the persistence of the myth that inside the empty nest lives a shattered and depressed shell of a… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
For those who have lived on the edge of poverty all their lives, the semblance of poverty affected by the affluent is both incomprehensible… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
For sex to be wholly satisfying, we must have at least as much concern for a partner as for self - a requirement that doesn't live comfortably alongside the exhortation to 'do your own thing.' In the end, we are left with an extraordinarily heightened set of expectations about the possibilities in human relationships that lives side by side with… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share
Indeed, it is that ambiguity and ambivalence which often is so puzzling in women--the quality of shifting from child to woman, theseeming helplessness one… — Lillian B. Rubin Copy Share Image
