“One of the grubby truths about a loss is that you don't just mourn the dead person, you mourn the person you got to be when the lost one was alive. This loss might even be what affects you most.” — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
Many researchers say the dominant emotion experienced after loss is yearning or searching. And while you might feel more anger early on, it's accompanied by a whole host of other feelings. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
'Hamlet' is the best description of grief I've read because it dramatizes grief rather than merely describing it. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
Sometimes you don't even know what you want until you find out you can't have it. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
There are many kinds of loss embedded in a loss - the loss of the person, and the loss of the self you got… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
One of the difficulties with grief research is that it risks making certain kinds of grief seem normal and others abnormal - and of… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
This is part of the complexity of grief: A piece of you recognizes it is an extreme state, an altered state, yet a large… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
The people we most love do become a physical part of us, ingrained in our synapses, in the pathways where memories are created. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
My theory is this: Women falter when they're called on to be highly self-conscious about their talents. Not when they're called on to enact… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
Grief is characterized much more by waves of feeling that lessen and reoccur, it's less like stages and more like different states of feeling. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
I wasn't prepared for the fact that grief is so unpredictable. It wasn't just sadness, and it wasn't linear. Somehow I'd thought that the… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
For sure, the funeral industry seems intensely cynical to me and I don't think it is HELPING people mourn. — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
To mourn is to wonder at the strangeness that grief is not written all over your face in bruised hieroglyphics. And it's also to… — Meghan O'Rourke Copy Share Image
