“If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundary violations are deeply experienced.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When this low self-worth is hidden, one can understand why the person becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others and has a… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creative conflict and successful understanding.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from emotions, and successfully keeps… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more judgmental a person is the sadder they are.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Acceptance is the most beautiful word in any language; this beautiful concept can only exist when you allow other people to be… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“REAL people do not have to lie, exaggerate, or brag for they are self-contained in self-understanding and acceptance of themselves. REAL people… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“We violated each other’s boundaries with verbal missiles of anger disguised in the pretense of “just kidding.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“It is very difficult to develop a proper sense of self-esteem in a dysfunctional family. Having very little self-worth, looking at one’s… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People who are unwilling to talk about deep personal issues do not trust their own emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
