“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundary violations are deeply experienced.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People build defenses around a weakness, not around strength. Where self-esteem is strong, a defense is unnecessary.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“We violated each other’s boundaries with verbal missiles of anger disguised in the pretense of “just kidding.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from emotions, and successfully keeps… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Codependency is a learned set of behaviors, thought processes, and habits. When combined together, they fit a very loose definition. All people… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“With improved coping skills forged through my midlife crisis, I now listen first and do not control, and I allow these now… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Since children from dysfunctional families are so good at judging others, they also judge themselves finding themselves unacceptable when compared to others,… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Others hide from being real by filling the air with words; the more words they throw out, the less actual communication happens… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“REAL people do not have to lie, exaggerate, or brag for they are self-contained in self-understanding and acceptance of themselves. REAL people… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wrong decisions may… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The strange part about a person’s lack of trust is that it often comes from not trusting themselves.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“We ardently desire to take down our masks and say to the world, “This is who I am…and I am okay.” This… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People who are unwilling to talk about deep personal issues do not trust their own emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People who are unwilling to talk about deep personal issues do not trust their own emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
