“No matter how perfect our circumstances, most of us, as Adam Phillips observed, “learn to live somewhere between the lives we have and the lives we would like.” The hard part is to make peace with that misty zone and… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“SOME OF THE HARDEST parts of parenting never change—like sleep deprivation, which, according to researchers at Queen’s University in Ontario, can in some respects… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Dying, in other words — like combat, like becoming a parent, like any transformative life event — doesn’t always reveal or intensify aspects of… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Our stories may not always be pleasant as they’re being lived. They can in fact be just the opposite, acquiring a warm hue only… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“As parents, we sometimes mistakenly assume that things were always this way. They weren't. The modern family is just that - modern - and… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell researchers that… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But the truth is, there's little even the most organized people can do to prepare themselves for having children. They can buy all the… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“THE SENTIMENTALIZATION OF CHILDHOOD has produced a great many paradoxes. The most curious, however, may be that children have acquired more and more stuff… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“In that same lecture, Kahneman confessed that the outsize power of the remembering self mystified him. “Why do we put so much weight on… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But these gains in freedom for both men and women often seem like a triumph of subtraction rather than addition. Over time, writes Coontz,… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“He just has to step away from the moment to see it. Which isn’t surprising. Lots of parents will tell you that when they… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“One could simply say it’s a legitimate fear-response, a reasonable and deeply internalized reaction to a shrinking economic pie.” — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“If one takes meaning into consideration, happiness might best be described as “a zest for life in all its complexity,” as Sissela Bok writes… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Having worked so hard to have children, parents may feel it's only natural to expect happiness from the experience. And they'll find happiness of… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“That women bring home the bacon, fry it up, serve it for breakfast, and use its greasy remains to make candles for their children's… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“And if that’s the case—if we are our remembering selves—then it matters far less how we feel moment to moment with our children. They… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
