“More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But the truth is, there's little even the most organized people can do to prepare themselves for having children. They can buy… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“THE SENTIMENTALIZATION OF CHILDHOOD has produced a great many paradoxes. The most curious, however, may be that children have acquired more and… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Having worked so hard to have children, parents may feel it's only natural to expect happiness from the experience. And they'll find… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“And if that’s the case—if we are our remembering selves—then it matters far less how we feel moment to moment with our… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Parents can project into the future; their young children, anchored in the present, have a much harder time of it. This difference… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Children learn from the world through doing, touching, experiencing; adults on the other hand, tend to take in the world through their… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Yet somehow mothers and fathers believe that if only they could convey the logic of their decisions, their young children would understand… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“TO MY MIND, THOUGH, there is a third development that has altered our parenting experience above all others, and that is the… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“I was so struck by Flow’s negative implications for parents that I decided I wanted to speak to Csikszentmihalyi, just to make… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Everyone is moving at the same speed toward the future. But your children are moving at that same speed with their eyes… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Drawing from 1.7 million Gallup surveys collected between 2008 and 2012, researchers Angus Deaton and Arthur Stone found that parents with children… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“NO GRAPH IN THE world can do full justice to these unexpected moments. They’re sweet little bursts of grace, and they leave… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But young children, whose prefrontal cortexes have barely begun to ripen, can’t conceive of a future, which means they spend their lives… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“We enshrine things to memory very differently than we experience them in real time. The psychologist Daniel Kahneman has coined a couple… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“...as Dr. Spock points out, raising happy children is an elusive aim compared to the more concrete aims of parenting in the… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“They also create wormholes in time, transporting their mothers and fathers back to feelings and sensations they haven't had since they themselves… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“In addition, Steinberg has found that adolescence is especially rough on parents who don't have an outside interest, whether it be work… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“SOME OF THE HARDEST parts of parenting never change—like sleep deprivation, which, according to researchers at Queen’s University in Ontario, can in some respects… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Dying, in other words — like combat, like becoming a parent, like any transformative life event — doesn’t always reveal or intensify aspects of… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Our stories may not always be pleasant as they’re being lived. They can in fact be just the opposite, acquiring a warm hue only… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“As parents, we sometimes mistakenly assume that things were always this way. They weren't. The modern family is just that - modern - and… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell researchers that… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But the truth is, there's little even the most organized people can do to prepare themselves for having children. They can buy all the… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“THE SENTIMENTALIZATION OF CHILDHOOD has produced a great many paradoxes. The most curious, however, may be that children have acquired more and more stuff… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“In that same lecture, Kahneman confessed that the outsize power of the remembering self mystified him. “Why do we put so much weight on… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“But these gains in freedom for both men and women often seem like a triumph of subtraction rather than addition. Over time, writes Coontz,… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“He just has to step away from the moment to see it. Which isn’t surprising. Lots of parents will tell you that when they… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“One could simply say it’s a legitimate fear-response, a reasonable and deeply internalized reaction to a shrinking economic pie.” — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“If one takes meaning into consideration, happiness might best be described as “a zest for life in all its complexity,” as Sissela Bok writes… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
