“DBT's catchphrase of developing a life worth living means you're not just surviving; rather, you have good reasons for living. I'm also getting better at keeping another dialectic in mind: On the one hand, the disorder decimates all relationships and… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“So at family gatherings… I try to stick to the acceptable script. Indeed, I discover that the less I say, the happier everyone seems to be with me. I sometimes wonder if I wouldn’t have been better off as a paraplegic or afflicted by some tragic form of cancer. The invisibility and periodicity of my disorder, along with how often… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share
“All you want is love and belonging, and your very existence depends on it. But when you get it, you have no existence except… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“wonder: How much of what I feel as neglect has been fueled by the force of my constant need? How much can any person… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“I may have no emotional skin and come undone at the smallest interpersonal upset, but I’d make a great bullfighter or firefighter—anything that gets my adrenaline going and focuses me on a physical target. The motorcycle is all of that and more. When I’m on the bike, it feels like a door opens in my chest and the world rushes… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share
“I’ve read that, for some borderlines, the flip side of abandonment fear is the fear of engulfment. It’s another one of those “screwed if… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“Connection gives us our life, yet it also threatens to take it from us.” — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“Ironically, the word “borderline” has become the most perfect expression of my experience— the experience of being in two places at once: disordered and… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“DBT's catchphrase of developing a life worth living means you're not just surviving; rather, you have good reasons for living. I'm also getting better… — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.” — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
“recognizing how even poison is a form of medicine when used the right way.” — Kiera Van Gelder Copy Share Image
