Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing attitudes, these people-the pride and joy of their parents-should have had a strong and stable sense of self-assurance.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents' expectations. This feeling is stronger than any intellectual insight they might have, that it is not a child's… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
